Quote: I refuse to use the term "affair" when we talk between us. The word implies some romantic thing and places the emphasis on THIER R. What H did was betrayal, infidelity, dishonesty, and cheating and there nothing romantic about that.
I'd like to add my complete agreement with this. When I've talked to my W, I've been using the word "affair", but I've always been uneasy with it, not knowing why. Talitsa, you said it exactly right, "affair" does have a connotation of romance, and there's nothing remotely romantic about what my W did to me. As a generic term, "infidelity" is much better.
