Oh I HEAR you, Tal.

I, too, had dreams, two in one night, of H having sex with a "blonde woman"...when OW #2 sent me her "glamour shot" (B!tch!!! ) voila, there was my nightmare.

(Have I mentioned to you that I do a little dream intrepretation? I LOVE that stuff!)

I get the DISTINCT feeling from your last post, how your H responded, that it IS over with OW, that he IS serious about mending your R. I think you know, deep down, that this is real. OF course being betrayed steals from us that inherent sense of trust, puts up our radar for anything that might signal betrayal or such.

Heck just the other weekend I had a "moment" when H and MY best pal since age 4 were having "too good a time" together at an outing...someone thought THEY were the married couple! It never would have bothered me before as my best pal is just that, MY champion to the end.

I also agree heartily with you that intimate e-pals and the such are NOT a good idea...hell that's how BOTH of my H's A's started!!1

CJ and I now both follow our inner moral compass...the one that sounds when someone is stepping over a boundary. We have some pals that can be very flirtateous, I've been asked to lunch by a flirty colleague...You just HAVE to listen to your soul telling you...this isn't right...this isn't something I could go home and tell my S all about.

So, any other intersting dreams you'd like to share???

Shiny