I read your last post. I can understand the pain you feel. You are not in control of how the M continues. There was nothing I could do or say to change my wifes mind. Seemed to take forever to move past this point. What I wanted was not what she wanted and she was perfectly happy with the way things were progressing. There is no reasoning with someone in that state of mind or if they are very appathetic. I didn't realize that your H was in public service. I can understand his mindset in the way he deals with the crazy stuff that goes on out there, unfortunately it affects the M. I have several coworkers and friends that are in the same profession and they all deal with the extremes of that job. I know of two that are currently in marriage counseling. I know they are being encouraged to leave the profession if they wish to keep the M going. I guess it comes down to how much you love your partner and the promise that they made when they said I DO. While I understand how easy it is for your H to act in the manner that you see him now, its not right and you and the M should be put before the job. You wrote to me last week about the rut that you seem to have fallen into and seeing no way out and wondering if you should continue DB. Talking about the feelings and the events of the day help, don't stop DB. Curious, how much of your H is still around you, ie pictures, belongings and just stuff that constantly reminds you of him??? Would now be a good time to remove those items from sight just to give the mind a rest, just a thought.
