AmyC

[Dom R]

Dom,

Why is it so important for you to be right?

You seem to be laboring under a false impression. I dont find it important for me to be right.
I find it important to encourage people who say the bible is important to them, to actually peruse the relevant sections of the bible, and acknowlege what it says at a literal level.

Certainly, there are bits of the bible that are ambiguous.
But there are also bits that are crystal clear, with zero ambiguity.

If a self-professed Christian says, "X is God's will", but there is a clear part of the bible that says the opposite... I think it's my duty as a Christian to bring that to their attention. (and I think that is actually written in the bible somewhere as our duty to other Christians. )

If after that, they say, "well, I dont care...", then it is on them, as their choice.

And as far as 'justification' for her 'divorce' if she were to choose one, the Bible does say if a spouse abandons the believing spouse that is grounds.

Sorry, i must have missed something....
last I heard, Amy's husband has "separated" from her, but has not "abandoned" her.
It's a pretty fine line between where he is, and abandonment. but doesnt sound like he crossed it to me.

Also, the passage references "letting them go", or "not in bondage. It doesnt explicitly say "divorce them". There's a little bit of ambiguity there, would you agree?

Seems to me that the overall context of that passage (1Corinthians 7:12-15) is that, if the spouse CHOOSES TO LEAVE (or divorce), then "let them go/give them a divorce if they want it".
(but these days when women can file for themselves, seems like that would mean, "if they file, then just go ahead, you dont have to fight it, or feel guilty about the divorce.")

Amy's husband is still "around", and HE has not filed for divorce. Therefore, HE has not "abandoned" her.

In fact, I quote from Amy:

He seems content to live in his current state as opposed to doing any real "work" on himself much less with me. We have regular contact and it is very good. But I am through having my life on hold while he sits and spins.

In other words... he simply chooses not to "work on" the marriage, or himself.

That's different.

One perspective on that could be, that her H is having his own form of MLC, and Amy has gotten tired of waiting for him to grow up.

I'm not saying that's definately the way it is. I'm not "passing judgement" by saying that. I'm saying that is one possible perspective.