Gads Talitsa, what a smack in the face. I know how sick that would have made me feel.
As you yourself said though, those IM's were most likely pre-bomb messages.
I know that the impact is thunderous all the same.
I can only offer my cyber-shoulder to cry on, that is, when you are able to. I too often am unable to cry for extended periods of time after being kicked in the head. Why is that?
I feel so awful for you, I wish I could say something wise and comforting, but unfortunately, no matter how much we rationalize the logic behind certain events, it still feels like someone ripping out stitches from a fresh wound.