The flame is flickering out...

[CBK]

SPM - thanks for the reply. This is very helpful. Had a very good talk with W tonight. Although I still hold her secret, I told her why it was difficult right now. Basically, what you said above - that she is disrespecting me and the family. I take your words very seriously and will keep them in mind. I need to play all my cards correctly right now. I do know OM is in counseling, but am pretty sure OMW has no idea of the affair. You are right, she may come unglued - but I have a note that was sent to OM from W - so evidence I have.

Tonight, we had the talk with kids, they were great. They didn't ask about who was at fault, we did say that we have a lot of issues we are dealing with - they didn't question us. Good or bad. I did tell W I would not lie to kids if they asked, so I know she was relieved at the end.

Thanks again, this was a very helpful post.

CBK