No I've "Gotta" get my hands on that Gottman material.
And Yes, I think my H had convinced himself that I didn't really love or want him anymore (and to be honest, at that time...while he was unbeknownst to me having chat-pals and pulling away from me) I didn't really FEEL all that much love and desire for him!
But when that 2X4 hit, it hit HARD and I realized in a flash that I DO love this man and would do whatever I could to make a better M for us. I think seeing me hysterical and on my knees rather shocked him. I imagine he thought I'd say "Good, let's D, haven't loved you for years!". NOPE!
