Wondering if anyone else out there has attended a wedding since they've been separated and how well they handled it? I'd love to hear from you.
The girls and I went to a wedding this weekend. It was a good friend of mine who worked with me and my wife at my old company. My friend was on a team with me and three others, that started a new product. She and I became fast friends from day one. Looking back is surprising because we would talk often about our marriages. We both were clearly very much in love with our spouses, we were about the same age and had been married about the same length of time. We even had been blind dates! If there was one thing we both were proud of was how we'd been married so long and had what we both thought were very good marriages. Boy I guess we were both wrong! Her husband cheated on her badly, not to mention he became insanely jealous too.
Well at the wedding during a toast she calls out and says "See Catfan, we can be happy again and you will too!!" Bless her heart she is so sweet! I can't say enough about how excited I am for her because she was absolutely devastated with the breakup and divorce. This was the first wedding either of my girls had been to and they had a great time. Most of all they really felt the happiness between two people and saw the love they held for one another. Even more important they saw how my friend's new husband had the same love for my friend's 8 year old daughter. Then to hear him give a vow to the daughter saying, I will love you as I love your mother and so I not only marry your mother but marry you as well. Yes it made me tear up a good bit, he really meant every word he said. So I hope if my wife and I do end up divorced that we both find someone that can love our daughters in that way.
So all in all it was a great weekend, a beautiful and fun beach wedding. I was extremely excited for my friend and felt the beauty right down to my bones. For the most part I had that excitement running through me but I will admit to at times I felt alone. Why, well I was one of the very, very few singles there and the only single man. For the most part everyone else was there with a significant other of some sort and I was there with my two daughters. So it wasn't hard to feel at least a tinge of loneliness because sometimes I felt like I stood out like a sore thumb. The fact that I knew very few people there didn't help much either. Even harder was the fact that the few people I did know there didn't know of our separation. So I would have to explain that, fun. Still I had a great time and felt pretty darn good most all of the time.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
