I did pretty well avoiding getting pissy this weekend. Lot's of interesting stuff came up too.
Saturday evening we had three sons, plus their girlfriends, over for dinner. H and sons interacted fondly. Mostly, H and I sat in the corner and giggled to each other watching the interactions between sons and their girlfriends.
Saturday night, I brought up all of the things that I've been learning about male midlife crisis/male menopause. I also brought up the (very touchy) subject of Viagra. Told him all I've learned about the causes of the little problem we've been having for the last few years, such as high blood preassure, medication for high blood preassure, depression, anti-depressants, drop in testosterone levels, etc. Told him I had gotten some samples of V and asked if he'd be willing to try them. H tried to change the subject. I said, "hey, we've been ML to each other for nearly a decade now and I think it's weird that you can't talk to me about this. It's not just you and your problem, it's US and OUR problem".
OK, he says he'll try it, but doesn't like the idea of needing a pill. OK (I didn't say) I don't like the idea of you going out to mess around with an OW to see if a change of woman will fix the problem!
Fast forward to Sunday morning. Little blue V pill works great. H now interested in getting a prescription. Lot's of lovey-dovey talk from me which H encouraged and seemed to really like, but not reciprocated.
Spent the day buying camping gear, going out to lunch, going to the movies, running errands. At least 5 times, something came up that got me thinking about XOW but I bit my tounge because I was having a good time and didn't want to ruin it. I notice that he notices nice-looking women and then tries to hide it. Bit my tounge about that too.
Still no reciprocated affectionate talk from H, BUT all day I'm noticing he's very snuggly and looking at me with affection AND (hey, I haven't seen that look for a long while..what the heck is that look????) oh, yeah, I remember that look--that's H looking at me with desire in his eyes. Wow, it's been so long since I've seen that I almost forgot what it looks like! OK, I can deal with him noticing other women as long as I'M the one getting THAT LOOK.
We go home and before he goes back to his little apt., he's making up a list of what we still need to pick up for camping trip. "Did I forget anything"?, he asks me.
No more tounge-biting.
"Yes", says me, "you forgot to marry me 9 years ago".
"...well", says H, "I've been thinking about 4th of July next year. Do you think we could save up enough $ by then? Think about it."
Well, my DBing techniques may be unconventional, but I think that this weekend I 1)got lucky and 2) got a wedding day proposed from the most marraige-skittish man in America.
