Thanks J & S: Your positive comments mean a lot--especially after trying to recover from a period of time when my self-esteem was trashed. I'm still emoting all over the place, but I'm so thankful to have a safe place like this to do that and helps to talk things out here. Funny, when the bomb hit and I became a psycho-woman (up, down, and even upside-down) H was so surprised about my reaction and behavior: "you've always been so level-headed before"!
Ummm...as if I would be CALM about him CHEATING and LYING about it and waiting for him to decide if he even wanted to be in this R at all. DUH!
Yes, we've got great boys. We have what is called a double-blended family (2 of his, 2 of mine). Both of the other bio-parents involved have not been involved, except to cause trouble about once a year or so. As H has always worked nights, I have been the primary parent all along and I do take some credit for the wonderful young men they are all turning out to be.
I refer to it as a marraige too, and refer to him as my H. Yes, the dynamics are the same.
