I should be separated in 45 days and I am very excited about that. I need to GAL fast. I have put a deposite down on a new house for me to move to June 16th. I am very excited to have a safe place for me and my kids. Thanks for your thoughts.
I can see you have found a new direction to put your energies into. Wow, good for you for taking some big steps like a new place to live. I have a feeling it will bring some sense of different boundaries and more peace, regardless of what happens in your connection w/W.
It was totally necessary that I make this move. Living in the house just raised the negative energy level for all. I need to protect my kids. I know they will be with me all the time. I am very excited about my new place. It is 500 yards from my old house and 100 yards from my work. My kids will have full access to me all the time. I love them so much.
Boy what a difference from the MLC page, everyone there is very concerned that i am moving so cloe to my W. I must be near my kids all the time. period.
As I posted on your other thread I think you are doing what is right in your sitch , which you know better than every one here. Always filter the advice you get here , there are some posters that appear to me to push their own perspective of things very hard (they tend to have been here a very long time ). While there may be some good points in what they say , its your life and you need to be entirely happy with your actions as you have to live with the results. Living close to your kids is very important.
Living close to my kids is issue number 1. I think these people are concerned with me stalking my wife. I think, because alimony stops when she gets married, that I am going to be sending limo's filled with men to the house and i am going to increase her budget 100% at the beauty parlor. Kinda like the Bachlorette.
I am just trying to give her what she wants. I really want her to be happy and I am really looking forward to my new life how ever hard it will be in the beginning. I need to create a new life and i am working on that now.
BT, you wrote "I really want her to be happy". Well, you can't make her happy, you couldn't do it as her H and you won't be able to do it as her XH. Unhappy people will continue to be unhappy people, even when they blame their unhappiness on us! Separation will not bring her happiness. Your job is to create a sitch that allows for healthy parenting on both your parts. That means being co-operative with her for the the kids sake. But, do not make this too easy for her either, this is a messy and sad business and her happiness is NOT your responsibility.
