I just finished reading through your thread. Very enjoyable reading, not because of the pain you've had to go through, but because of the way you expressed many of the thoughts and feelings I've been dealing with.
I too have had some success with R talks with H by sandwiching touchy subjects between positive comments.
Presently, I am dealing with a truck load of anger brought on when my H voluntarily promised not to lie any more and then proceeded to lie repeatedly afterward.
I haven't posted to my own thread here in "piecing" ("A Ray of Hope, I Hope") for some time as I find it difficult to sort out my situation on the bb at times. Don't ask me why, it just happens. Anyway, I will be keeping an eye on your situation, which by the way, I think looks hopeful.
