How do they walk away?

[CBK]

Treese,

I feel your pain and I am sorry. I started to tear up as I read your post. My W sounds like your H and you like me. Our sitc's are very close. I try and say that I have no more tears, then the waterworks start again and again and again! We are human and the hurt is real. We have to learn to deal with the pain, not our choice, but we have to stay strong - for you and your kids. From what I can tell from the postings, this gets better over time. The best way I can describe it is when my brother passed away 14 years ago. We are mourning our marriage now. It is like a tornado, right now, you are near the bottom of that tornado and your emotions are spinning out of control - they come so quick, you don't know what hit you. As you progress down this road, your emotions will move up the funnel of the tornado, your emotions are still spinning, but near the top, the emotions come less frequent. To this day, something will click and remind me of my brother and I become very sad. Those emotions, for me, will never go away, nor should they. I see my M the same way. Even though I know I will be okay, no matter what the outcome is, I will always have these emotions for my W and our M - because it has played a huge role in my life.

Treese, WE WILL BE OKAY. Surround yourself with your kids, my daughter just took me out shopping to buy some socks - kids are intuitive and have that amazing ability to lift us up when we are down - just by their stories.

Please take care - I am sure your stomach muscles hurt from crying, mine do - but I guess the side benefit is that it is helping tone my tummy :-) (my shot at humor).

CBK