You mentioned that your h has come a little closer to you than last year. It seems like some move at a snails pace. It sounds like your h is still really unsure of himself but from what you say in your posts it seems like he is working through it slowly.
My h used to always focus on the hard times in our M too and even had told me that he didn't ever see himself back with me in our M. Things change, hang in there and let your h go at his snails pace if that is what it takes.
