I have a ? for anyone that cares to answer. H came over again today and he immediately tried to start a fight over the fact that the house is more expensive than $800 a month b/c of property taxes & insurance. Yes, but I think it is still cheaper than getting a rental in a neighborhood with good schools like H wants and/or paying for private schools and/or tutoring for the kids rather than homeschooling if I work full-time, etc. Plus when the housing market improves or when we are ready to sell we will get money back & if we sell it now will get nothing. He also complained that I wanted him to look at the toilet again which is leaking and I don't do my own repairs!!!
I didn't say anything and just went upstairs right away to work out and avoid H's anger (replay of his anger yesterday it seems). H told me he is upset today b/c he doesn't have much money right now and that he couldn't afford his own apartment but for the last 6 months or more he has been blowing $500-$600 a month on the OW, hotels and lately nice restaurants many times a week. And of course it was his choice to move out and have the double expenses!
We are going to have to call a plumber it turns out b/c H wasn't able to fix it either! And I was thinking about emailing H something like:
I agree with you that I need to do more repairs around the house. I think plumbing and electrical might be over my head at least for now b/c I don't want to cause myself or the house damage, but think I should try to do any other repairs that come up.
I am trying to get a part-time job so with that income we should have almost $100,000 a year (note: H's salary is of course most of that!). I think we should be able to live on that & we will both maybe have to try to economize like cutting down eating out and keeping the air up and that kind of thing. Or if you don't want to do that you could also get a better paying job (note: he has a state job so would get paid more if he worked for a private firm but would prob. have to work more hours).
I don't think your anger about finances is deserved b/c you are the one that has chosen to move out and increase our expenses. I will get a part-time job (all I can handle with homeschooling), and then it is your decision whether you want to live economically, get a higher-paying job, or just not have much money and do something that will reduce some of your anger as it is probably not healthy for you, your kids, (or me) !
Okay, please post if you think I should email this or if I do if I should make any changes! Be brutally honest I can take it! I have been trying to be friends with H, but I think his anger makes that very difficult sometimes. Thanks!!! Karen
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