Our circumstances are so similar. My, how times and people change.
She is now constantly trying to "sell" me on the wisdom of her unilateral choices. Whatever.
I know. I think our spouses almost sound like the same person sometimes!!!
That is a tough one about homeschooling. I do have empathy for your wife in that homeschooling AS kids can be tough (I know!) and my kids and I all have pretty mild temperaments so get along well, and I have a teaching degree and a little prior teaching experience so think that's helped me. I even took Special Ed classes during my degree b/c of H's LDs, but it worked out handy! But of course it sounds like both our spouses seem to have changed personalities and brains even like they are totally different people than we married, which I think has happened in both our situations!
It seems to me like if you have been supportive of something like homeschooling for 7 years and then you only change your mind because of your affair/separation/divorcing that decision not to support homeschooling seems really suspicious & suspect to me, like my H is thinking about himself rather than the kids. So I know my fighting him on that is prob. a good choice for our kids which are really my main focus.
I think we both (you and I) don't have very positive outlooks on our marriage right now and I am DBing for me and our kids now rather than the marriage. I think it doubtful my H would come back as he seems so selfish & angry, really like a different person. And even if he did at this point, I am thinking do I want to be in a M with someone that is angry most of the time, hangs up on me when we are talking on the phone, and has an affair and all the other stuff he has done this past year??? I think both of us deserve better than the current spouses we have, so they would both have to undergo miraculous change (and I think it would def. be a miracle in my case)! Karen
Karen
