Glad things went better for Tyson the following time. I am sure it will get easier for you both as you get into it.
As for the stuff and the ex, well was he into things? Was stuff important to him? Maybe it wasn't and so he didn't care. That seems to be the deal with mine and frankly, with me too. I could walk away and take barely anything. I look at it as hey, I get to have all new stuff.
That being said. Mine has moved his newly acquired crap into the house today! YUCK! IKEA!! DOUBLE YUCK! Mean time I am pulling my hair out.