I am so glad to hear that Tyson is looking better and home with you.
I have been giving my 18 year old cat Antigone fluids everyday for 3 years now. She also has kidney issues. I was so nervous in the beginning. I don't do well with needles and use to feel light headed afterwards!
The cats really don't feel the needle prick - they sometimes get annoyed b/c the fluids are cooler than their body temperature. I wrap a hand towel that I fold lengthwise around her torso. The towel use to keep her still in the beginning and now it is a comfort thing for her. And after the fluids, I give Antigone her favorite food as a treat.
I am sure Tyson is very happy to be sleeping on your lap again!
Things with Tyson are going well. Wednesday was the first night I had to give him fluids, amd needless to say it did not go well. I was nervous and half his dose went all ovet my kitchen. So after 15 minutes I gave up so as not to traumatize him. I then came home at lunch the next day and all went well. So I know X's wedding is coming up. It may have even been yesterday. And I have to admit, it was on my mind yesterday. I tried to shove it aside but it ended up creeping into my dreams. I dreamt the X forgot to order wedding rings so they had to get married without. Just wierd stuff like that. Last night I was looking around at all the furniture, kitchen stuff, etc that he just walked away from and did not want. Yes OW has furniture and stuff, and he would not have had room, but if I helped pay for things I would have atleast wanted half if I were in his shoes. Was the guilt so bad that he felt better letting me have everything or if he took things would it have been a constant remeinder of what he did ? I shall never know I guess. How is it that the WAS seems to move on to a whole new happy life (marriage)immediatly while the LBS is left to rebuild their life and finding love and happiness takes alot longer? Just things that have been running through this pea brain of mine. Hope everyone is having a good weekend. i am off to wash my pups, something they are sooo excited about
found out about affair 8/06 H moves out Nov/06 D final 8/07 X re marries OW 5/08 _________________________ Courage does not always roar, sometimes it is a quiet voice at the end of the day saying... " I will try again tomorrow". -- Mary Anne Radmacher
Glad things went better for Tyson the following time. I am sure it will get easier for you both as you get into it.
As for the stuff and the ex, well was he into things? Was stuff important to him? Maybe it wasn't and so he didn't care. That seems to be the deal with mine and frankly, with me too. I could walk away and take barely anything. I look at it as hey, I get to have all new stuff.
That being said. Mine has moved his newly acquired crap into the house today! YUCK! IKEA!! DOUBLE YUCK! Mean time I am pulling my hair out.
I am so glad that things are going well with Tyson. Happy puppy bathing!
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How is it that the WAS seems to move on to a whole new happy life (marriage)immediatly while the LBS is left to rebuild their life and finding love and happiness takes alot longer?
The X was from Germany. He had a very dysfunctional family and ended up moving in with a GF when he was 16 (age not that big a deal in Europe). Anyway - he lived with her for 10 years. He refused to marry her - she cheated on him and they broke up.
Then he met me - I very conveniently lived in the US. I thought he left his country for me. It took me awhile to realize - he ran away from Germany and all memories of that R. It had nothing to do with me. He needed to amputate it all and start over again with a clean slate.
We lasted 5 years. And when the going go tough - true to his pattern he left again. He needed a clean slate to start all over again.
And now he has yet another life with what I call wife #3 (10 years of living together counts as a W in my book). He did take 1/2 the stuff b/c he is extremely materialistic and loves stuff - not for any memories. He has started all over again.
It is possible that when things get messy or complicated - X needs to amputate his past and start all over again. And he feels happy when he leaves b/c he it is a new beginning - no R clutter. The problem is that this R will also get messy with time. I find people repeat patterns 90% of the time. I am willing to bet X will react to OW in the exact same way he reacted in your M when he started to feel "unhappy."
People that work through the tough times are happier in the long run. They take responsibility for their happinesss - instead of blame the lack of it on external circumstances. You strike me as one of those strong people - the ones that are lucky enough to find real love and you will again someday. You are the lucky one b/c you have far more capacity for happiness than X. X is a silly weak man that is off searching for a happiness holy grail that he will never find.
Anyway - all that stuff is head stuff. The heart takes awhile to heal. Take care of youself and be good to yourself. I am so sorry that X turned out to be such a colossal idiot.
How is it that the WAS seems to move on to a whole new happy life (marriage)immediatly while the LBS is left to rebuild their life and finding love and happiness takes alot longer
Key word here is seems . They aren't trying to build a relationship on a solid foundation. They have learned very little thru this process. Is it a coincidence that the rate of divorce amongst second marriages is higher than 1st, and even higher when they were created from adultery???
I think we've redefined 'happy' life and they are just living a life, doomed to make the same mistakes. Most, not all anyway.
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Shut it before i kick your a$$!
Have a great one! Glad Tyson is doing so well, sweetie.
