Our circumstances are so similar. When W and I were dating and during the first part of our marriage, while we planned our family, we both agreed on homeschooling (my brother and his wife had begun doing it too) and in raising our kids ourselves, avoiding daycare as much as we possibly could. She joined homeschooling support groups, studied books and other resources, and got all geared up to be a mostly-SAHM and home-schooler.
Over the years however since S7 came along and he began exhibiting the problems associated with Asperger's, W has changed her tune completely. She decided that S7 would be better off in public school, that she wasn't up to the task anymore, and even states that both S7 and S3 need the "socialization" skills that only a public education offered. (But that's what the homeschooling support group she belonged to was for.)
Oddly she had at one time considered these same so-called merits of a government-run education (no offense to you educators out there, BTW) to be highly dubious. And she had sworn she'd seek private school before public school for our children.
My, how times and people change.
She is now constantly trying to "sell" me on the wisdom of her unilateral choices. Whatever.
