All of this is hard as h3ll to deal with but there is one positive thing ... her actions are killing/crucifying any emotions your H has for her. This is what happened for my H and his OW. While she ranted and raved and behaved irrationally, I sat by and was calm, cool and collected. She drove him back into my arms. I know his feelings for her are dead -- in fact, I can say he really dislikes her now...
Hope this helps ... hang in there and let OW do all the work, she pretty much has already.
Joie
I agree with Joie. I think that is happening too! I wouldn't worry about your H, more so for your kids!!! The OW sounds like a real fruitcake!!! Karen
Karen