OMG Here we go again!! What Have I Done??

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Well my life is like a soap opera..I need to write a book about this..The last 4 months have been Hell..On Thursday my H went to Queens to see the realtor to get his $500 deposit back that he put down on an apartment..Yet I found out he lied to me again!! He told me that it was over with the OW and that the last time he saw her was on March 23rd..I told him Wednesday night I would allow him to come home but if they had anymore contact at all he was out. He agreed. So I get a phone call from OW while my husband was driving to Queens. I found out that although there has not been any sexual contact the last month he wrote her letters, sent her texts and called her to come see the apartment he put money down on.How do I believe him anymore??? The reason she was calling me now was because once again he told her that they needed to make a clean break and she needed to stop calling him. She "suggested" I throw him out , that she doesn't want him anymore but he'll continue doing this, if not with her then with others. I told her I had 15 years invested, a home and children and it isn't her business what i decide to do. After that she got nasty and started sending me pictures via my cell of my Husband in all his glory..if you know what I mean?? She told me that if I called her Mother again she would send them to my family..So lo and behold on Friday morning at 5 Am she texts my husband saying Now that you have both disrespected my family I've disrespected yours. At first i had no idea what she meant, but then H said " go check the girls phones quick" So I go into my D's rooms and get their phones. She sent each of my daughters a picture of Their father's most private part! I had enough..I called the police who told me that she could most certainly be arrested, would lose her job and perhaps even make the news. She was sending pornographic material to a 10 and 13 yr old! So then H starts freaking out, he calls her and was visibly shaking , he was so angry and she thought it was a game.The police sent a squad car here so I could file a report, the whole time H is begging me to reconsider that this would destroy her life and he was afraid her family might retaliate against our family somehow and harm our kids. in the end I was the bigger person, I did not file the report but I called her while I spoke to the officer so she could hear the conversation and feel the reality of it all..I called her afterwards and told her I still have the phone, I've taken it away from my daughter and if she texts or calls us again I'll take it to the police..I really don't want to ruin this woman's entire life and if the sitch were revesred she would have had me arrested in a heartbeat.Now I ask you..if this doesn't make my H wake up and see how she really is then what will?? He says that after this he hates her and can't even look at her anymore and that he is disgusted..But yet I feel that I no longer even know this man..I've been telling him for months that she is insane and is only happy when she gets her way. he told me that for the last month he tried so hard staying away and that one night she showed up at 3Am to his job because he refused to speak to her..She has threatned suicide and I've seen how often she'll text and call..But i'm tired, so emotionally tired..Tomorrow I start school again at night..I've decided on a career change and hope to finish by 2009..I know I have to start workign on me..Now 4 months later H is saying all the things I've wanted him to say for months. " He wants our marriage to work" , He loves me and He wants to really work on us and our sex life..wow..what a concept..Yet part of me is afraid that he will always love her and i'll never make him happy again..I hate this..I am so confused..so for now I wait..