My H is very adament about the house. Wants his 'share' of the equity, and knows full well that I wouldn't be able to stay there with the kids if he did that, at least right away. He wants his money, so 'we have to sell'. I refuse to give up that easily. I won't fight him to the death over it, but I will wait it out until he listens to other options.

Those are SO many changes your H is expecting of you, all at once. I would just sit back, stay calm, and listen to the reasons your H lists for you, but don't make too many comments. He can't rush you into anything, so don't panic.