Talista- I know exactly where you are coming from. You have felt you do all the talking in trying to resolve issues, H does very little talking and you get no where.
It sounds like you have made an excellent start. You are right there needs to be time to talk about R. And scheduling this time and putting a time limit on how long it lasts allow for issues to be addressed out side of an emotional state. In prior R talks when you did all the talking I bet it was frustrating to get little response from H and then the emotions start to fly. When emotions are high it is hard to hear the other person, especially one that doesn't talk much.
I have also started writting letters to H when I feel I need to address an issue. This way I can read back and make sure I am saying what I mean and make changes. The only draw back is that I have asked questions of him in these letters, which he doesn't respond to immediately and I start to feel he is ignoring the issue. I am learning to give him time.
