Sweetie, I am so sorry about this new turn of events. But, I hopt it's part of a new chapter in life - healthier in every way.
I'm glad your mother is there. And, you're NOT a charity case - your mother would come to be with you for this no matter where you were. That's family - you're never alone with them in your life.
You told H because it was what you needed to do - don't regret it. If anything, it gives you ANOTHER opportunity to see for yourself how self-absorbed he is. Don't let it make you feel badly, let it make you realize, again, how he just isn't the man you need in your life.
I know it's natural to feel that maybe he's suddenly this wonderful person for someone else - the man you wanted him to become. There are a few points with this.....
First, simply "popping out of the MLC tunnel" doesn't mean he's what you've been expecting. You've changed, too. You need more in terms of compatibility, especially after a rough time. So, he may be out, but without a lot of work, he's still not what you wanted, or expected, or what you need.
Second....I'll admit that (thankfully) I have never been through such a hellish life crisis where I destroyed everything and hurt so many so deeply. I hope I never do. So, I don't know what it feels like to come out of that. But, I can make a basic, and probably accurate, guess that "popping out of the tunnel" requires a LOT of soul-searching, analysis of causal factors, therapy, prayer, and honesty. A real life turn, a real coming to reality and facing everything. Really staying on track to what really happened, and making amends of some sort - even if it doesn't involve reconciliation.
In short, it doesn't involve a handful of emails, and then an attempt to sweep everything under the rug as you lie to a new person to "move forward." When you meet people who went through something like this, they are open about the transformation in their lives, it's a part of them.
If not, it just keeps coming back. It's bound to...how can it not?
