Hope,

Best wishes on the surgery - hope it's as routine as you suggest.

Sorry that your husband still has not found the balls to admit that he screwed up his life when he left you.

Most of all, I'm sorry to hear that a person with all your obvious gifts and talents is still bound by wondering what's wrong with you. Really Hope, comparing yourself to the latest girlfriend, while perhaps natural, is the proverbial cheeseless tunnel.

After all this time, it's time to replace the wedge of your life that was always occupied with your husband, with something else. Something that will be good for Hope. Something that will make her feel good about herself.

I just spent the better part of this weekend watching my ex parade her "soulmate" around our old friends at two of my sons baseball games. It's actually sad to see how hard they try to recapture parts of their life that they've already trash canned because of their behavior.

I don't buy into the too often repeated mantra that "this relationship won't work either." We simply don't know that. What we do know is that he's still broken so at the very least his new love interest is getting damaged goods. But perhaps that's what we had too, eh?

The important thing here is that there is an awful lot of good life yet to be lived, and WE have the choice as to whether we will spend that time with one eye looking backward all the time, or commit ourselves to embracing all that life has in store for us.

There's nothing to be lost by commiting fully to finding joy for the rest of your life.


Blessings,

Bill

Last edited by Bworl; 04/27/08 04:25 PM.
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