He left again after five weeks........

[MidwesternGirl]

AH:

I beg to disagree with you. Alcohol IS NOT the main culprit here. As a result of the MLC, many come to a crossroads after a few years, realize the damage they have done to their families not because of drinking but as a result of other behaviors such as affairs, that sort of thing.

Once they realize and attempt to make things right, the guilt is so overwhelming that they resort to self medicating.

I can honestly say that those of us on the other side have no idea how unbearbale that pain can be although we have heard from our spouses or others who have been in MLC how bad the pain is. It is way beyond what we can only imagine.

There are many who resort to alcohol to self-medicate and there are many who cut way back when they can finally cope with what they have done. I am aware of people who have done just this.

My husband can and has stopped drinking, he did so for one year. He is self-medicating big time. I know this, and others who know us well also know this.

I am aware of AA and their teachings. Thanks.