Thanks lwb! In the privacy of my home and head, I'm not so great, but outwardly, I'm trying to be confidant and upbeat.
Tough day yesterday - got most of the sorting done. So many memories I'd not thought about for a long time. It's hard to enjoy them rather than regret them in light of the current sitch.
Something happened that's very painful for a friend of mine and puts my own sitch in sharp perspective. This friend is a co-worker and, having D 5 years ago, has been incredibly supportive of me over the past months. After her D, she had a series of relationships that never really worked because she was so anxious to be with someone again (something she's warned me repeatedly against). Finally she met someone who she really connected with and they've begun a great relationship.
But he had been in a short relationship with someone before her and this person ended up being a little unstable. He has been in the US as a professor for many years, but has never applied for citizenship, so only has a green card. To get back at him for dumping her, his ex-GF filed battery charges against him in a very conservative county. 99% of these cases in this county are convicted, though usually only as a misdemeanor with a hand-slap fine. Problem is, even as a misdemeanor it means deportation for him - away from his kids, away from his job, away from his life, and away from the relationship with my friend. He'd never be allowed to return to the US.
So they've begun the process of trying to find a lawyer who can help. Watching this, I have to admit that as painful as my W's A and the ending of my M is, things could be so much worse! It's hard sometimes to count your blessings when you take them for granted.
