Thank you for your input. As I already have the support of my kids in my sitch, the only reason to expose the A to anyone else who doesn't know, my kids and my parents (a few select friends know)would be for me to give WW the 2x4 as a last resort. I will struggle with this and will consider both sides very carefully.
H4H,
I would encourage you to pray not about the add'l pressure such an exposure could bring to bear (altho I do think it could do that), but rather about the ramnifications of not telling your children the truth. I see in your posts a greater and greater understanding by them of what's going on, and it must all be very confusing for them. I prayed long and hard about exposing to S14 (and ultimately decided NOT to expose to S11, other than we told him "Mommy and Daddy are having some problems, and we're working on them" kinda stuff), but I ultimately decided that if I were to err, I was going to err on the side of the TRUTH, and let him know that I would ALWAYS tell him the truth.
He thanked me for that.
May I ask why your parents are upset with your wife, if they don't know about the affair?
