A, I'm very sorry to see that things have taken a different turn than what you may have wanted/expected. However, let's take a look at the situation w/your son and your h at this time. Your son needs a male figure in his life, possibly on a full time basis, for a while. This is a very good opportunity for your h to be a full time parent and give you a break. You've been carrying a large part, if not all, of the parenting load while your h has been playing in his sand box. Now, it's your turn to rest, get your stress levels back to normal and put your focus on you for a while. I know you are looking at the situation in a different light, but I do believe you've been given an opportunity for a much needed break.
Your h will now see what you've had to deal with when it comes to your son rebelling, staying out and not doing what he's suppose to be doing. I suspect that your son will not be living w/your h for very long. As another poster pointed out, kids will play parents against each other. He will get tired of your h supervising him and will want to return home, and vice versa. He will want to return home, but for now, give the young man some time to spend w/his father.
I do hope that you are feeling better today. I know it hurts, but sometimes we have to let them test their wings a bit, but those little birdies do return to the nest when the time is right.
Sending you warm and positive thoughts.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
