Mink, I'm saddened to hear this, but I do feel you'll be OK. Both of you have walked a very good line to this point. I think both of you have done everything you could have to this point and it's a healthy parting. Of course, you never know where life is going to take you, eh? That's one thing I think all of us on here can agree upon.

Regarding dating, I think your wife's a little too concerned IMO. I understand where you're coming from. Sounds like you don't want a relationship or the romance, but a little change from the status quo. A way to see the new options on the horizon. Take it slow, just like you have from here.

And with your wife, I think you do whatever you feel like doing. She calls. If you want to answer it then, you do. If you don't want to, you don't. There's no ulterior motive anymore, you are just living.

Go live, Mink. Go breathe, smile, laugh and cry. Live life. Find your peace. I know you can.


Me: 42/H: 37
T: 10 years/M: 8
D9, S8
Bomb: 7.23.07
Separated: 1.20.08
D Final 3.19.09
Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09

My life is good.