nocode, I see it ALL the time on here. Rarely you read about a WAW wanting intimacy (or even hugs) from their husband. But the WAH can go back and forth (at least some). H did not initiate ML with me when he was involved with OW and I didn't know, but he was willing when I knew about it (however, I wasn't lol). I could say that I could call him right now and he would be over here, but what it would mean to him, I have no clue. And it would mean more to me. Plus I feel so distant from him in all other aspects, it would hurt me to be so close to him. Space and detachment are my means of survival at this point.

Gypsy, I don't know if its because a guy feels more strongly about another person, but more of a newfound attraction, an 'addiction' if you will to the attention. In one of the books I read (Not Just Friends, I think), it mentions how a WAS has to build walls. They have to build a wall in between them and their spouse in order to let the new person in.

Hopeful,

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I guess it is hard for any LBS to imagine that they could do what WS is doing to us.


I totally agree. I can't imagine doing what my H has done, and that's not meant to come across as holier than thou.