Sara, Its Jeff - I know you have had it, I'm thinking of your finances. If you need to walk out and you don't have a plan, money for rent or a place to stay.
There is nothing wrong with waiting, open your own checking account, building up a nice balance, searching for good apartment, pack your stuff, talk to a lawyer and say nothing to H, he'll get the idea real quick what you are doing.
All I'm saying and I've always tried to give this advise in any situation, don't rush things, take your time. When my W does something like she did this weekend I can feel the anger building up quick and I want to explode, but I contain myself and think about what I'm going to do and say.
I know you hurt, you are a good person, please remember that, please remember it wasn't your fault, please remember, you will get through this, remember, take your time, think things out, once you have made a decision, it should give you some relief and you can begin to work on your new life.
Best wishes, take your time, talk to lawyer, work on your savings, pack, work on yourself, come back and help the rest of us. You have helped me, just by being their when I was down. You have probably helped a lot of people in DB land.
