I do think that H didn't appear v happy even when he came home to eat, he didn't interact with anyone much except son and you at times. I am afraid that unless he gets help from professionals for his severe depression / and drinking this is going to be a very long road. The best you can do is what you are doing and taking steps to make yourself more financially independant. The girls deserve the same as your son. This will only cause bigger sibling rifts.Sorry jmo. I do know men that treat sons diferently and their daughters as second class citizens but it is usually a culture thing,still makes me cross in this day and age.
Remember, he did come home for almost six weeks and we were doing great and then his mood went from good to i cannot do this... but i still love you and i am miserable here, there, everywhere.
H does not have those cultural issues and he up to the MLC time treated all of the kids fairly and he was the best dad.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Steelers, I know he already knows alot about psychology etc. It wouldn't hurt to hear it again especially when things can get forgotten over time. When he comes home again, would it help to request him to go to counselling? Perhaps, explain to him that it would be beneficial to everyone if he did that? And say that you know he wants to do right by everyone and by God?
Do you know how many times he has heard those things--when he is very sober he has heard me, about doing right by God--D16 told him in a text two weeks ago not to have any contact with her whatsoever until he gets right with God and she told him not to come see her or call her.
I spoke to a friend of his whom I have kept in touch with and I know him very well also. He said H will never go to counseling and about how well versed he is. It will not happen unless I go to court and somehow have him admitted which is nearly impossible.
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The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Steelers, life must be very tough for you right now. I would just have no contact with your h even if that means going without. Me personally would find another way or go without.
Just your h's comments about not having any milk etc what is new just sickens me. How selfish can you get? Putting his needs ahead of his children. This alone would make me not contact him.
I also would not have any conversations with your children regarding h. I wouldn't want to know what text he is sending or what conversations they are having. Why would you want to subject yourself to that right now? Does it really matter what he is saying if he isn't saying it to you?
You and your kids are all the matter right now. Your h left again and shouldn't be worth your time or effort right now until he gets some serious help.
Hugs!
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
H normally does not say that about what we have/don't have in the house. He is miserable and it wears off if you know what i mean.
S17 met him out front and they went out and talked for a few hours.
H is going to meet S17 again tomorrow and give him some $$ to give to me for some water and milk.
I do not know what was discussed and I did not ask.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Sf, I just came to say goodbye and to wish you well.
Where are you going?????
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
