"They have brief moments of happiness when with the OW/OM, but it is not what we think it is."

THey used to but according to him has not been happy with her for awhile. Told me she is a really screwed up person, just like him.

He goes there for the reasons I stated above but I don't think of this as being about OW, it is about HIM and how he deals with HIS problems.

The Bomb: 08/05
H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09
Divorced 08-12
Kids: 22, 20, 19