I guess, reading all this, that in Imlin's sitch, although her H had SOME contact with the OW to assauge his guilt, or whatever, Patti's H doesn't appear to be limiting his contact or even feeling guilty apart from when he is caught.

I agree totally with neaj. Patti's H appears to be cake eating big time and I would question him being in a 'fog'. I honestly believe he has Patti exactly where he wants her. I don't think he is in MLC an longer.

That is why I take such a tough stance - I believe he is cruel and manipulative. This woman has bent over backwards to make his homecoming as pleasant and easy as possible and he has played her.

Saffie
me 46
H 46
M in 1986
D20,D18,S16,D13
H's A 01/05 to 07/06
H recommitted to M 07/06
renewed vows 09/06
Going from strength to strength