A very important piece of information that you said is: "I know he is miserable, he said so himself"
Everyone on this board who is fighting for their marriage must remember this.
Their crisis IS NOT FUN. They have brief moments of happiness when with the OW/OM, but it is not what we think it is.
Other posters, MLC'ers have said the same.
They are just reaching for anything and everything, but nothing brings them the peace and stillness that a spiritual life can bring. Until they realize this, they will be miserable.
We have to guide them, show them our life of peace. Actions not words.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
