Well, showing that you are genuine in the attendance of your kids and those types of matters are important. I say that because it is said and true that they can see through the "Look honey, look how I am taking care of things." You want to do things because you WANT too....not because you NEED to. This is where a lot of couples screw up in the marriage. The W/H gives and gives and gives while the other SO takes and NEVER gives....or just enough to show the appreciation of it.
