SF I have been reading your thread good thing to stay busy and let your faith guide you seems by all logic Your H will have to reappear but maybe for now this is best the less comfort for him the better for them to see the truth
Alanon is very similar to DB..like could be sister programs they have meetings everywhere dealing with an active alcoholic is similar to dealing with a MLC
peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow