Update from last night...this could get long.

So H called me right after work and we went to dinner. While we were eating he mentioned that he went out with some guys that I went to HS with on Thursday. He had already told me he was going out with some guys after work, I just didn't know who. So anyway, then I asked "Did you tell them you are married to me, or did you just ask if they knew me?" He said "I just asked if they knew Kris (maiden name)." I didn't say anything to that and then he said "Look, I don't want to fight tonight." I was not fighting and told him that, it was just a simple question. So I dropped it after that, it just bugs me.

Then he wanted to go somewhere else for drinks. So while we were there we started talking about some things. I kept feeling like he was about to tell me something and then stopped. So I pressed him a little bit. So here is how our convo went from there.

H: Besides the obvious...what have I done to make you mad?
Me: just hiding things from me in general.
H: I hide things because of the way you react.
Me: You hide things because of the way you assume I will react.
H: Sometimes it is just easier to hide it than get in a fight.
Me: Well, that isn't how it is supposed to be. You should be able to tell me anything. I agree that I may have overreacted to some things in the past, but I have changed.
H: How have you changed?
Me: I have just come to realize what things are important and I shouldn't sweat the small stuff. Also, the reason I get mad a lot of times is because of the fact that you hid it.
H: Well, then I have something to tell you.

I am thinking OMG, another bomb. I really felt like I was going to barf. So he told me something, I am not going to get into what he told me because it would probably make no sense to anyone here...just me and him. It was really no big deal, but I would have been pissed and it probably would have been the breaking point if I had found out and he didn't tell me.

So I told him that I was glad he told me. I asked why he told me because I probably NEVER would have found that out. He said he just felt like he needed to tell me. I think my reaction made him feel comfortable and maybe he sees that I won't freak out. I see that as a big step in him earning back my trust.

UGH I need to go, I will update the rest later.

Kris