What I'm saying is, it sounds as though you are keeping the lines of communication open, which is good. But at the same time, it appears that she is living her life nicely and you are the one that is helping her ease into a life without the necessity of you. I think that you don't need to be her "secretary" on everything....that is why she is the mom right? How about her attend the games or once in a while and let her know you are going fishing, golfing, whatever the case may be and see if she reciprocates the info about the games and the such.
