Piecing or NOT....III

[tpaschal]

I don't think it is reasonable to expect EVERY man to come back crawling on his knees begging forgiveness and trying to prove himself with everything he does...some make a "silent" return...

Lin

Oh, I didn't mean to suggest crawling and begging and pleading. I just mean an honest committment to do what's necessary to re-earn your trust. And if that means being open to you reading his emails or text messages for a time, or checking the cell phone bill closely each month, or kicking the OW out of an apartment he owns, then that's what needs to be done. It can be done very calmly and quietly, without any fanfare or drama.

But if they are not open to that, if pride or not wanting to feel "controlled" or whatever gets in the way, then it seems to me that they are not fully committed to re-earning your trust and building a new R.

Just MHO, of course. I'm not personally anywhere close to that...this is just what I've picked up from reading DR and threads here, and from what a couple of my RL friends have gone through in "piecing" their M's.