NoCode, I think you're being too hard on yourself. Just because you went out with a single woman from your DC group doesn't mean it's a date, does it? Unless you thought of it that way. Or did it have more emotional meaning to you than a night out with a friend?
I have to admit, I'm a bit confused on this too after becoming so familiar with affairs. I used to think there was nothing wrong with having someone of the opposite sex as a friend. Perhaps there isn't, but if you run the risk of it becoming an EA. Maybe we're just too unstable from all this to feel comfortable with it?
I'm sort of rambling with my thoughts, but I read your post this morning and have been thinking about it ever since.
