I have learned that WS want to rewrite the history of thier marriages. It could not have all been bad. As it was written before on here, when you fall for someone, it was a choice. We may not believe this, but it is true. It is the feeling of falling in love that you are in love with. And yes, it may feel fake right now, but it takes time. Guilt, anger, resentment as well as the feeling of being "in love" are all strong emotions. If you consider your self a spiritual person, don't forget how God see's what has happened. Sometimes, He does not want to be happy. Sometimes we have to endure suffering. Not that He wants this to be ongoing, but sometimes we suffer. It is our cross to bear.

On the subject of your son, was it made clear to you that you had no shot at keeping him or was it just an assumption or both of you going back and forth on custody? Curious.


Me 47, WW 38
SS18, D15, D10

Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08

"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."