You just have to make sure you can live with the consequences. It may be the choice you want to make....and maybe not. There are ALWAYS other options.

Action IS better than words. But it doesn't have to be an ALL OR NOTHING action.

And Puppy is right...that your knowledge of your patterns should be used.

Just brainstorm first....all kinds of options.


Staying with no boundaries, waiting it out
staying with boundaries, which boundaries
staying with counseling

Leaving
leaving with counseling



What WILL help...

Knowing what motivates her. What does she want from you in terms of friendship, love, support.
Leaving with a plan to come back

sg
Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001