I think she's back

[Starshyne]

Well things are less than awful. I looked at his (which is actually our) bank statement and found numberous dinners out at times when he told me that he was doing other things that were charged to his debit card. And then the worst: a charge of $263.03 to a jewlery store at the mall. This one REALLY hurts me because he never even bought me an engagement ring. I had to buy my own. And here he is buying some OW a jewlery piece. I confronted him on this stuff last night. He bolted. I heard him come back at 11pm.

I am at the end of my rope. I have spent my day praying, reading the Bible and various books on marriage issues at the library. This is my plan for when he comes home from work (assuming that he is)

Tell him that I want our marriage to work, but I cannot be involved livig in the same house with him if he is going to continue seeing other women. There are 3 choices...
1. He will end ALL contact with any OW there are. Change his cell phone # as well as allow me to see his phone each day and look at his bank records. He will need to be spending time with me, doing things with me, etc to show that he is wanting to work on the marriage.

2. If he does not want to end it completely with the OW, then he needs to pack his things and go live with her or elsewhere.

3. If he give me the whole "this is my house and you can't kick me out" line again, then I will say. Fine, but nothing legally says that I cannot leave. And I will pack up and go to a hotel tonight and figure the rest from there. I will be leaving him in charge of the mortage bill, water, electric and his car payment. I know this will deeply hurt my credit and I might lose the house in the long run, but I have decided that right now my sanity and happiness is more important than my line of credit.

I am not GAL right now. I just don't have the energy. It took all that I had to actually get off the couch and come here and type this. I will get back to being a better me once I can get going on my H's decision. Please be praying for me.

Sara