Karen, we all realize that we have our boundaries. Have you set a time goal for your sitch? I know I keep wanting to set my time goal, but I just can's seem to set it. I just keep waiting for her. Also, when is the last time ya'll had an R talk? I know we shouldn't be having them, but sometimes they just come out.
No, I haven't set a time goal, but I think in a month or two I want to see how things are going: whether they are the same, better, or worse than now. I don't want to drag this separation/divorce for years if it's going to happen anyway. We haven't had any R talks since H moved out. He did say 2 or 3 weeks ago that he was stressed out at the time he started his affair so it made things seem worse than they were. But other than that, no real talk. He has noticed all my changes, but said it was too late and that was about 6 weeks ago.
We are in a weird limbo I think, b/c H hasn't really been working on the house that he wanted to sell and then divorce. So he is not rushing into divorce. He used to spend hours working on the house when he started his affair, then a few months ago, he slowed down to just a bit of working on the house, and the last month or so hasn't really worked on the house at all. (He scraped paint off the front porch for several months, and now isn't doing anything. But no talks or signs that he is interested in the marriage. He has started showing interested in the kids the past month or so, starting to reconnect with them. I think he is in MLC, but don't know if he will ever reconnect with me.
I think he kind of enjoys where he is now, basically living single but eating dinner and spending a few nights with us every week, so maybe doesn't want to mess with that.
