it's because that is what I need to do for me, to be able to life my life in a healthy, non-dependent way.
The only adjective I would add to excellent statement would be happy. From my experience, Happiness definitely Attracts!
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I will answer her phone calls and emails, but will not initiate any.
I will go even further than that; don't immediately answer all of her calls. And, in fact, maybe you can even miss some of her calls. Like Frank suggested: Do not always be available to her.
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I will casually date other women.
There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with enjoying the company of your friends, co-workers, acquaintances, etc., even, and especially if they're women. If you, or anyone else, wants to call it dating, BIG DEAL. Ask those people if they ever tried it. And if so, ask them what the result was. Did it end their M. Wait a minute, wasn't there M on the rocks to begin with? How many people on this BB have had an unfaithful spouse and yet continued to battle for their reconciliation?
Your W is obviously pulling away from you. You need to do whatever is necessary to change that course. In my case, casual dating definitely helped me abundantly. At first, I was reluctant to do so, but I figured I had no choice. My W had served me with those "dreaded" D papers, and I needed to get out of my funk. I regained my composure, enjoyed myself, regained my confidence, and became, once again, HAPPY! These qualities, which my W (and I'm sure yours as well) noticed, change my R's direction. I was cool, happy, confident, mysterious, and it was these attributes that brought my W back to me (our M).
It's hard to believe that it's been over 3 years since my M almost ended. Though what worked for me, might not work for everyone else, one thing is certain; if what you're doing isn't working, then change what you're doing, and try something else. And why on earth would you put off and idea for "a month or two", if your M requires immediate action?
