I think if you'll go back on your thread, you'll see that Strong&Alive has given you a fantasatic roadmap. I suggest you put your keys in the ignition, steel yourself, gas up and start driving.
You might want to move your thread over to the "Infidelity" board, as there are more of us over there with specific experience with what you're going through.
I'm so sorry that you're going thru this again. There's obviously a pattern here, both with your wife and with how you react to her affairs over the years. The good news is that you have some "what didn't work before" data and experience to go by now, and this message board of people who can help you maybe do things differently this time.
I get blasted sometimes for suspecting affairs, but the "script" is really pretty easy to spot. The good news, again, is that even that can be used to your advantage.
Go back and read that post from S&A, and let us know what you think. I think it contains an excellent mix of DBing/GALing/focusing on YOU things, as well as things you can do to draw some new, strong boundaries with your wayward wife.
