Piecing or NOT....III

[tpaschal]

Patti,

I can't remember if I've posted to you before, but I've followed your thread for a while. I'm so sorry for all the continuing pain you are going through.

You've gotten a lot of great advice, but coming from two different perspectives---one is how to handle this if you are in "Piecing" and the other is how to handle this if your H is still in the midst of MLC.

You know your H and we don't, so only you can determine which it truly is, but IMO, from many things your H says and does it sounds like he is still in the midst of MLC. Several have said that their WAS/MLC'ers returned too soon, and that may be exactly where you are now.

I don't know that much about piecing, but it seems that when you are truly in that stage, complete openness and honesty is needed, even to the point of encouraging the betrayed spouse to snoop. The returning spouse has to PROVE that they want to win you back, not just say the words.

But even if your H is still in the midst of his MLC, and is cake-eating and just mouthing the ILY's instead of TRULY being ready for piecing, you could look at this as an opportunity to DB your H until he really IS ready for it.

Many {{{hugs}}} and prayers are with you.