Thanks so much for your input-i really appreciate it
Bill-I think that him starting to date some-one will be a good thing in the long run as it will open his eyes to what he has at home-he will realise that the grass isn't greener just different. The EO he had was just that and she didn't leave her husband. He hasn't been seeing any-one since. He lives like a recluse-interacting only with myself, the children and work.He has been on anti-depressants for about 6 months.
Jack-Hi there again- you explained the confusion of detachment very well, now that I,ve got it I'm not sure i want it?? What freak's me out about it is that if I'm not fighting for the marriage and he definately doesn't want it then it's a lost cause and there is no hope-it just so hard to drop it.
What I've been doing is reminding myself what a good man he was prior to all this crap. He was solid, dependable,strong man who was dedicated to his family.
I know he is full of self-loathing for himself.
Peace-Thanks so much for dropping in-I've read your posts and I do see similar traits that my H has in your H. Part of me was thinking that the dating question was just bait also. I've gone through every worst possible scenario in my own imagination so I've faced the worst of it inside my head so i'm able to keep my emotions in check until i'm alone - as the song says -the first cut is the deepest-so i don't think anything will hurt as bad as when the bomb was first dropped .
This site is like a oasis in the desert-it has really helped me more than I can say -the wisdom and support that every-one gives each other is fantastic.
